Williams points out that moral agency — the capacity to act on values and commitments — always comes from a specific person. And as specific people, we have our own specific, individual core commitments. These "ground projects," as Williams calls them, are the commitments that give a life its meaning and continuity. A parent has a commitment to ensuring their kid's wellbeing, over and above their general wish for all kids everywhere to be well. Williams would say any moral theory that requires you to ignore such personal commitments severs you from the very things that make your life recognizably yours.
So if keeping your kid in public school really meant hurting him, I wouldn't say you have to do it.
But you said your neighborhood school is okay. It sounds like it's not bad and not unsafe. So I don't have reason to think that it is actually hurting him. In fact, it might be helping him in ways you're not fully accounting for.
Education is complicated. If I were to get into all the details about school choice and vouchers and charter schools and magnet schools, I'd have to write a whole book. So let me just stick to the main points relevant to your dilemma, starting with this: There's a popular narrative that says private schools are better than public schools, but the evidence does not support that — especially if we take a broad look at what we mean by "better."
Although studies do show private school students outperforming their public-school counterparts on tests, the studies also show that private school advantages disappear mostly or entirely once you control for family background.
Longitudinal research led by Robert Pianta and Arya Ansari at the University of Virginia tracked more than 1,000 children from birth to age 15 in ten locations nationwide. After controlling for family income, parental education, neighborhood socioeconomic makeup, and other background variables, the private school advantage…vanished.
"If you want to predict children's outcomes — achievement test scores, the things we care about socially — in high school, the best thing you can use to predict that is going to be family income — regardless of what high school you go to," Pianta said.
Pianta's was a modest-sized study with some methodological limitations. But another analysis of two large, nationally representative datasets also found that public school kids did just as well in math as private school kids — or even outpaced them — after accounting for demographic differences. (Math is considered a particularly robust indicator of school quality writ large because, unlike reading, it's a subject learned mostly at school and not at home.) The researchers suggested that might be because public school teachers have to do stricter certification and can be required to do more frequent professional development, so they may be more reliably up-to-date on the latest pedagogical approaches, like those developed by the National Council of Teachers of Mathematics.
Admittedly, the very fanciest of private schools do offer some special advantages. Network effects are real. Maybe you want your kid rubbing elbows with a future senator. And maybe if you send your kid to ultra-elite Andover or Exeter, he'll have a leg-up if he applies to a fancy private college.
But that is not the same as ensuring your child actually thrives. I'm sure you also care about your child's psychological wellbeing. And here, some of the evidence about exclusive, high-achieving schools is worrying.
The unrelenting pressure to compete and achieve can be brutal in those schools. When students constantly compare themselves to others and peg their self-worth to achievement, the results are alarming. Studies conducted over decades by psychologist Suniya Luthar and colleagues found that students attending high-achieving schools are at significantly higher risk for anxiety, depression, and substance use. (These are often private schools, though hyper-competitive public schools can also fall into this trap.) In fact, the National Academies of Sciences now names these students an "at-risk" group for mental health problems, alongside kids who live in poverty or in foster care or who have incarcerated parents.
In addition to potentially providing a less stressful environment, public schools can confer other important advantages. For one thing, your local public school can help you and your child be part of the neighborhood community, which is incredibly valuable for social development and countering loneliness. And being in an environment that's more diverse in terms of race, ethnicity, or class can teach your kid to empathize and get along with a wide variety of people.
As the American philosopher John Dewey pointed out, these are essential skills and capacities for a flourishing adult life and for a flourishing democracy. Democracy is a way of being in community with people unlike yourself; that's a mode of life that has to be cultivated, and public schools are great grounds for learning to navigate a shared world.
Plus, public education is free! (Well, "free" — you've already paid for it with your taxes, whether or not your kid uses it.) So you could save all the money you'd spend on private school and instead use it on enriching opportunities to expand your child's horizons. Personally, I'd take my kid to Italy and teach them about Ancient Roman gladiators and Renaissance art and the many flavors of gelato! Or you could collaborate with your child to decide where to donate some of that money to fund education resources for kids elsewhere.
On balance, since the evidence suggests that a child at a decent public school, with involved parents, probably won't gain meaningful advantages from switching to an exclusive private school — and may face real psychological risks in a hyper-competitive environment — I don't see a compelling reason to make the move. If you've got the resources to even consider private school, then your home life will probably play the biggest role in your kid's academic trajectory, regardless of which building he sits in during the day. The most important educational institution in your kid's life is you.
That said, I'm not arguing that parents should never pick private school. To some extent, this depends on the unique needs of your kid and your family. Maybe your kid is absolutely in love with music and the private school nearby has an amazing music program. Maybe your kid is being bullied at his current school but has a couple great friends who attend the private school. Or maybe a religious education is very important to you, so a private parochial school makes sense.
If you do make the choice to send your kid to private school, you'll have to grapple with the collective action problem you hinted at: Any single family's departure from a public school barely registers, but when every family with options reasons the same way, the cumulative effect on the kids who remain — and on the school's funding — can be devastating.
Here, the American political philosopher Iris Marion Young can help you. She points out that our usual model of responsibility — the "liability model," which says that when something bad happens we should assign blame to a particular individual — is inadequate when we're dealing with situations of structural injustice. In these situations, it's a whole system that's producing predictable patterns of disadvantage.
Just look at the complex web that breeds educational inequality: Historical housing segregation has concentrated poverty in certain neighborhoods. Poorer neighborhoods generate less property tax revenue, which means less money for local schools. States can try to offset that, but schools in poorer areas still tend to end up with fewer resources. Families with options leave for better-resourced schools, enrollment drops at the local public school, and the school loses even more funding. The kids who remain get less of the materials — from textbooks to counselors — that would have set them on the path to success. There's a clear downward spiral, but no one person or decision is the villain.
So instead of blaming any one individual for their personal lifestyle choices, Young says that in cases of structural injustice, we should adopt the "social connection model" of responsibility. Under this model, you don't bear blame if you send your kid to private school, because systemic problems shouldn't rest on one family's shoulders. Young doesn't think you need to discharge your obligations through personal lifestyle choices.
But that doesn't mean you owe nothing.
You do still have a political obligation: to work toward changing the structure that produces injustice. As a participant in the political system that shapes education in this country, you have some power to act on it. You can vote and organize and advocate. You can pressure decision-makers and support reform movements. The more power you've got, and the more privileged you are by the current system, the greater your obligation to take action.
Make the effort to act on that obligation. Let your child watch as you do. Better yet, involve them in the process. Kids learn from seeing what their parents do: Show them that you're bent on enacting your values, and you'll be giving them an education for life.
